Your daughter is gay

And while, today, I do feel all of those things for both of my gay sons, I still feel deep shame about how I acted toward them when they first came out. In those dreams, I had a tow-headed, blue-eyed, loving grandson just like Luke. I had it all planned out. My dreams died a sudden, violent death on that muggy June afternoon. Suddenly I found myself steeped in shame, denial and anger.

Question: I have a year-old daughter who is gay and who has had the same wonderful girlfriend for three years. My daughter came out to my husband and I when she was 16 and we have been unconditionally accepting. It took me a little while to readjust the life I had imagined for her, but that was all done in my head, not in front of her. She and her girlfriend are so happy, I look at them and they are so relaxed and comfortable with each other and you can just tell they are meant to be. Our extended family know in terms of brothers and sisters and their kids, and are, for the most part, okay with it.

With it come many different emotions: fear, excitement, and a whole lot of worry. I know. I hesitated even writing this essay. Please be gentle with me. I just had my 17th birthday.

Is she in trouble? I love you. While Feintuch considers herself an accepting person, she still faced some immediate stress and shock when her child came out to her. A new study conducted by researchers at George Washington University found that most parents of lesbian, gay, and bisexual youth have difficulty adjusting after their kids come out.